2. Provide you with a list of good quality suppliers – Coming up with the ideas is fun. Knowing how to find the suppliers to turn them into reality can be the tricky part. Having a list of reliable Wedding Industry suppliers that work within a range of budgets will remove a huge amount of your researching time.

3. Check the run sheet for your day – There are so many things that occur on a wedding, and each takes longer than you think. Plus you may have 200 guests to take into consideration. Your Bridal Coach will step you through each part of the day, and assist you in understanding how much time is needed for each activity, as well as the order that will work best.

4. Give you an Action Plan – Dont forget, you don’t have to do it all yourself. Bridesmaids, groomsmen and family members are there to help. So they should be included in the Action Plan as well, to ensure everyone knows what is expected of them, and give them plenty of time to get it organised.

5. Save you money – One bad decision can not only ruin your day, it can also cost you a lot of money! You don’t need everything and often there isn’t enough time to do it all. By providing a list of good quality suppliers that provide Value for Money, a Bridal Coach should save you money across your whole wedding investment.

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Wedding planning can be stressful, but it’s also supposed to be fun. I tell all of my clients that if they aren’t having fun, we’re doing something wrong. The only time that doesn’t apply is when we’re dealing with budget problems. I’m a wedding planner, not a magician. The vast majority of the time, I have a blast planning weddings with my clients. And my clients have fun with me. I tell them from the beginning that I reserve the right to make fun of them for ridiculous ideas — but I’ll tease them about it to their faces!

Unfortunately, wedding planning is a horrible, awful, miserable experience for some brides and grooms. Well, to be honest, mostly for some brides. The grooms suffer when their fiancés are upset because they hear about everything they’re unhappy about. And suddenly it snowballs and the bride is in a total meltdown.

Fortunately, I don’t actually experience this too often because the whole point of hiring a wedding planner is to avoid that sort of situation. I’m a wedding planner, not a therapist. But I get a LOT of emails and calls from brides “on the ledge” who are planning their own weddings and freaking out.

The pressure is too much. There’s too much to do. The people who said they would help aren’t helping. The vendors aren’t responding fast enough. She can’t afford the flowers she wants. Her bridal shop is fining all the girls because one showed up for measurements late. I could literally go on and on and on about the woeful tales I hear from tearful, angry and frustrated brides who are not my clients.

A lot of what I’m hearing from these girls is that they have bitten off more than they can chew, for various reasons. Some of them counted on friends, and occasionally they’ve hired a not-too-fabulous wedding planner or relied solely on the services of the banquet manager at their venue, and by the time they call me for guidance, they’re in an all-out panic.

One of the things I do is provide consulting services for do-it-yourself brides, holding their hands via telephone and email, coordinating with their vendors as needed and generally giving them a blueprint for a stress-free wedding day. But I’ve been fortunate, for the most part, because most DIY clients hire me from the beginning so I can set them on the right path from the get-go. Even if they’re frustrated when we start, they’re usually laughing with me and ready to tackle it all again by the end of our first conference call.

For some brides, even having a wedding planner or getting the plans back on track isn’t enough. They just can’t handle the whole prospect of their upcoming wedding. It probably isn’t cold feet — although some people may classify their behavior as such — it’s more like a total wedding nervous breakdown. Some are manically obsessed with every minute detail, and some just don’t care about any of it anymore and are ready to hop a plane to Vegas and elope.

The definition of bridal coaching varies from vendor to vendor — some are actual therapists and some are just wedding industry experts with experience in helping distraught brides find their footing. But it’s an industry that’s growing worldwide. The concept is therapeutic counseling for brides who are having trouble with the emotional side of the engagement.

Michal Kaplan, based in Richmond, Virginia, was a social worker for years before she began her business Bridal Balance, coaching brides all over the United States through their wedding’s emotional upheavals. She says her typical clients are undergoing stress that’s related to family pressures, relationship hiccups or other drama or personal issues like high anxiety about their upcoming wedding or life transition and other feelings of overwhelm.

In short — it has nothing to do with the actual wedding planning. It’s about what’s going on in their lives at the same time.

“Many of the brides are not using wedding planners. Planners who refer brides say they don’t have time to be ‘playing therapist,’ and would rather plan the wedding instead of dealing with all the emotional stuff that goes along with it,” Kaplan explains.

That makes perfect sense because wedding planners are really most concerned about your guest count, deposits, décor details and schedule not the fact that you hate your future in-laws or you BFF just broke your heart and isn’t going to be in your wedding. We hear about all of these trials and tribulations through the time we spend together planning, but we’re not the ones you should be sitting on the phone with looking for relationship advice. We don’t have time and it’s not what you pay us to do. If you don’t have a good friend willing to play sounding board, perhaps seeking out some professional “coaching” isn’t such a terrible idea.

The truth is that most of us will seek out professional counseling or therapy at some point in our lives, whether we’re dealing with grief, marital issues, financial problems or something else. Why wouldn’t a bride-in-distress get counseling for whatever’s got her so worked up during her engagement period? Sounds like a great idea to me. Then again, I’m just a wedding planner suffering from a little bit of compassion fatigue so you can’t blame me for wanting to pass a bride devastated by her deceased father’s absence off to somebody who is professionally trained to deal with that sort of thing. It’s not my area of expertise, and I don’t want to give the wrong advice or answers to my client. Don’t get me wrong — I care. But professionally, that’s not my department.

But really, at the end of the day, in all fairness, I have to ask a question. Did all of these newly-engaged women suddenly develop serious emotional issues because wedding planning stressed them out? Or were these all things they needed to deal with in therapy anyway? I believe that planning the biggest day of your life can bring out all sorts of emotions you’ve kept tucked away and hidden inside.

Family problems you can usually ignore become monstrous concerns that keep you up at night as you decide whether you HAVE to invite certain people. Friends you’d written off may reappear in your life when they hear you’re getting married and suddenly you have to deal with whether to rebuild the relationship or cut the cord. And it may be easy to pretend you didn’t lose a parent too young most of the time, but when you’re figuring out who will walk you down the aisle on your wedding day, it all bubbles back up to the top. Sometimes it boils over.

Not every bride has a difficult emotional time during her wedding planning — in fact, most don’t. For the bulk of my clients, wedding planning is fun and they’re milking every little bit of it while it lasts. Some of them suffer more after the wedding when a year’s worth of effort is over in just a few days of celebration. Total “wedding crash.”

The bridal coaching industry is growing and considered a legit “wedding vendor” now, so to speak. So obviously, their clients must feel it’s helping or they wouldn’t be getting glowing reviews and referrals. And there wouldn’t be more bridal coaches putting up a shingle — and there are.

I wish everyone a fabulous wedding planning experience and I hope none of my clients are suffering to the extent that they need to seek outside therapy. With that said, I’m glad there are professionals out there who are prepared to help them if they need it. My goal is to keep the actual wedding planning off the list of things that drive them onto the therapist’s couch in the first place.

Happy wedding planning from Weddings in Vieques and Sandy Malone Weddings & Events!

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PRACTICE THE AISLE WALK

Walk down your hallway or garden path like you’re walking down the aisle, imagine all eyes are on you from both sides, get used to be the centre of everyone’s attention at that moment.

If you’re making a speech, practice with a trusted friend or in front of a mirror until you are confident in what you are saying, don’t try and memorise it word for word, just know the theme and flow, everything else will come and will feel less staged & practised.

POSITIVE THINKING

Reframe any negative thoughts as soon as they appear . . .

‘’I haven’t done enough to dress the venue’’, this is your perception of what others may think, instead reframe it ‘’My venue looks fantastic and is just how we wanted it, all of our guests will love it’’

Visualise using your sense, hear the ‘gasps of awe’ as your guests respond to the wow factor when they walk into the room.

BREATHE

One of our body’s basic functions and yet we forget to when the nerves get the better of us!

In the days running up to your big day, start with some basic deep breathing exercise which will help you ground to a space of calm, if needed use some meditation, there’s plenty of free apps available nowadays.

TALK YOURSELF CONFIDENT

Affirmations are a great tool for building confidence levels.  Set yourself a mantra such as ‘’I have nothing to be nervous about, all my guests want the very best for us both, there is nothing to be nervous about in front of them and the love they bring us’’ – Repeat it every day . . .

KEEP CALM AND RELAX

The day before your wedding, do as much as you possibly can to relax.  This can be difficult if you’re having a DIY wedding as you will no doubt be busy decorating your venue but I really can’t stress this enough.

Give yourself a finish time and stick to it – stop, walk away and find space for yourself.

REACH FOR YOUR CAPE

Think superhero and stand tall, shoulders back, you’ve got this!  If you walk down the aisle like this, the essence of you will shine through and all your nerves will disappear.

FINALLY . . . SEEK SUPPORT FROM THE PROFESSIONALS

No doubt about it, you will want to be in full control of your wedding.  This will be more realistic if you seek professional support for both the planning process and one the day co-ordination to take care of the day itself, it will also reduce your wedding day nerves dramatically.

For more information, take a look at my SERVICES page or get in TOUCH.

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