Frequently Asked Questions
I work with ladies balance their new life as brides-to-be.
Think of a Wedding Coach as an adviser, behavioural specialist, conflict resolution expert, and relationship manager with a strong understanding of goal setting and wedding planning, all wrapped up in a life coach.
Additionally, a Wedding Coach is hired for the duration of your wedding plans, until the day you marry. Your Wedding Coach will collaborate with you so that you can stay on track with all wedding-related tasks.
However, your Wedding Coach is not a wedding planner. He or she will not partake in planning your wedding, or attend gown fittings, cake tasting, review DJs or bands, or select your reception menu.
However, your coach can definitely help you achieve the outcomes you want so that you will be less stressed and actually enjoy planning your wedding.
Reduce stress, build confidence, and maintain your sanity while you plan your wedding
Get organised/keep organised throughout the wedding planning process
Brainstorm and collaborate on ideas and strategies to help your wedding run smoothly
Objectively and clearly talk things through without being judgemental, and help you see things from a different but healthy perspectives
Achieve wedding goals on time and according to plan
Maintain control of your wedding plans while allowing you the ability to enjoy the process of planning your wedding
Develop new organisational, communicative, emotional and behavioural skills that you can use in other areas of your life
Here are some goals that a bride may want to achieve (this is not an exhaustive list):
Maintain her weight until her wedding day
Learn how to be more sexually or sensuously confident for her wedding night
Learn how to be more assertive and make decisions with vendors, the bridal party, or in-laws, and take charge during the wedding planning stages
Help with getting organised, and creating strategies to keep the wedding plans and tasks on track
Deal with situations that do not go as planned (no matter how perfect your wedding is or will be, there are some things that will not go as planned—ask anyone who has ever had a wedding)
I help my brides by using a co-active coaching approach, and through setting SMART goals.
The co-active approach was developed by Kimsey-House et al (2011) and is a model that incorporates collaborative efforts between the coach and coachee.
SMART is an acronym that stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable/Achievable, Realistic and Timely. As such, solution-focused goals are SMART goals. Using these concepts, my client / bride decides what she wants to work on and how she wants to approach her goals. I am there to support her.
Therefore, I work with my clients, through brainstorming, active listening and helping them identify the results they want to achieve, and I encourage them throughout the course of our relationship and the wedding planning process to use their strengths to accomplish what the desire.
Brides who take advantage of having a Wedding Coach (e.g., Life Coach) usually report less stress, greater control and actually enjoy their wedding much more.
Coaches, such as myself, serve as an objective support person, sounding board, and an individual that is there solely for the bride (or groom) through the entire wedding planning journey.
The amazing thing is that what clients learn through coaching in this area of their experience can be used throughout the rest of their lives.
Working with Bev was like having a secret weapon during my wedding planning. She kept me grounded and totally present throughout the entire planning process so I could take in all in, enjoy the moments and do things MY way.
- Anna, bride from Summer 2019 -
Congratulations on your engagement
This is such an exciting time! You may be feeling overwhelmed and spinning your wheels not knowing where to begin when you start thinking about planning your dream wedding and the logistics of it all. Well I totally know how you feel because I was in your shoes a few years ago.
It is a normal response to feel super stressed and overwhelmed during this time because you have no idea where to start. This is how we have been conditioned to think about weddings because there is so much pressure to have the perfect day. Imagine for a minute that this was not the case and you could actually feel more at ease throughout your planning instead of so stressed and overwhelmed. Would you believe me if I said that this can be your reality?